Divorce, unlike any other bargain, never has one good end of the stick. It always has bad repercussion to each party. If it in someway helped, it would only serve to alleviate a nightmarish situation but would never heal. That’s why divorce is never a carefree endeavor that should be taken lightly, more so on marriage.
But yet, divorce is inevitable. That’s why getting a divorce should be mulled over very carefully, every consequence deliberated and considered. To help you go on with your life, here are some starter questions that you should ask yourself about.
Are you letting go with a smile? Yes, if you’d decide on a divorce, the best way to maintain friendship is separating as one. It eases the pain, makes wounds heal better and is positive to everyone around you. Treat this as a clean slate in your life. That means you are single. So remove his “stuff” from your home, store them away or give them back.
Amicable divorces are found to be the most beneficial path divorcees can take. It allows no problems with regards to custody and child rearing expenses. Mutual cooperation is still there; the children still has a father to look up and a mother that they can ran to. That’s why divorces don’t have to be broken. Depends on the perception and how good humored everything is executed; children will hardly feel the changes of the atmosphere.
Have you made plans on how to deal with the children after the divorce? Because one of the main concerns after getting a divorce is the children’s welfare, couples often include details on how the children’s care should be handled. Factors such as parenting plan, child custody, visitation issues, and child support. This is the most wearisome part of the divorce and another reason why amicable divorces should be made.
Are you returning for work or do you need a career change? Divorce splits everything in the middle, even debts and some debts are those you know nothing about. Especially plan how you can financially survive afterwards. If you’re not careful, you may even don’t have anything to pay for your rent because the spousal support claimed too much of your salary. Plus, divorces also void tax exemptions claimed from children.
Do you want to love again? Definitely, though that choice should be better judged especially from your past experience. Learn to love again because being alone is the worst way to travel your life. But always learn from mistakes.
Too many divorcé and divorcée travel the path of callousness since they have felt disillusioned by a relationship that ended in a divorce. Then they get a string of casual relationships that more or less deteriorated them. Conversely couples ending a divorce in an amicable way do become good friends that mutually help each other out in finding their right partners. It did happen.